Welcome
Hi, I'm Aubyn
I'm a certified Life Coach who supports women through Outpatient Surgery
Coaching support through outpatient Surgery
coaching support for SURGery: PREPARATION and recovery
Better outcomes
Less pain medication
Less Stress
Get back to normal faster
Coaching Support for strong mental health
Pre-Op: Worry and Fear
Pre-Op: Worry and Fear
Pre-Op: Worry and Fear
We often experience fear and/worry before the surgery even happens. "Will this work for me?" "What if something goes wrong?" "They just made last-minutes changes, what if that was a mistake?"
Pre-Op:Planning
Pre-Op: Worry and Fear
Pre-Op: Worry and Fear
Your recovery period will go smoother with proper planning. Who will be managing the work you usually take on, at home and at work? What are your expectations of your caregivers? How will you get your needs met while resting in bed, unable to get up?
Operation Day
Pre-Op: Worry and Fear
Post-Op: Identity Changes
Surgery= vulnerability, and being vulnerable can be uncomfortable. You might feel out of control, and let your mind think every 'what if' scenario until the sedation comes. A calm, confident mind will feel so much better than out of control and worried.
Post-Op: Identity Changes
Post-Op: Sadness and Depression
Post-Op: Identity Changes
Surgery changes many of your self- identities in a few hours: able-bodied adult to needy patient, working member of the family to 'cut out' of the family, community participant to recluse shut-in (for a few weeks). These changes are intense and can feel disorientating.
Post-Op: Sadness and Depression
Post-Op: Sadness and Depression
Post-Op: Sadness and Depression
Feelings of sadness and depression are so common after surgery. They are a signal that we aren't giving ourselves enough self-compassion. Heighted bodily trauma also leads to heightened Flight or Fight response, you will be less able to calmly react to stress than before your surgery.
Post-Op: Pain and Discomfort
Post-Op: Sadness and Depression
Post-Op: Sadness and Depression
Of course, there is the surgical site itself! You will have thoughts about the pain, you will wonder if you are recovering normally, and maybe even try to just forget about it for a little relief. Moving through the different weeks of recovery brings new challenges and fears.
My Surgical story
I was resting in my bed, with my newly fused bones in my foot propped up on two x-long pillows. I was miserable; I was sad, frustrated, lonely, in pain, and felt like there was nothing I could do about it. My husband was struggling, from the bedroom I could hear him yelling at the kids to stop fighting, heating up dinner in the microwave for the third night in a row, and looking so frazzled I never wanted to ask him for anything.
I have had multiple surgeries before, but this time I was a mom, wife, and entrepreneur. This surgery felt like a huge blow to the family routine, a huge blow to my identity, a complete drop of my business, and a huge risk for my body. My biggest mistake was thinking that this surgery would not be a big deal, that resting in bed would be like a vacation and that my body would heal and get back to normal. I totally underprepared. My partner took on too much. I needed to talk to someone about my thoughts and feelings so they wouldn’t compound my suffering I was already experiencing from the surgical trauma. Surgery is a trauma to the body, even if it is planned and wanted. There had to be a better way! That is what led me to create this program: it is everything I have learned from my own healing fiasco and more! I didn’t know what to plan for, I didn’t know the questions to ask. In A Healing Home I detail out how to prepare your house, how to plan with caregivers, and how to ask for help. I introduce the idea of movement before you experience the bed-sores and stiff muscles. I talk about nutrition so you can make a plan that is best for healing and your caregivers workload. I have provided daily journal prompts specific to surgery recovery to allow yourself the time and attention to the thoughts and feelings that are new and unique to this time. But best of all is the personal 1-1 coaching meeting once a week. We talk about your unique situation, work though your specific needs. It is like having a personal trainer for your mind. This program will set you up for success: faster healing, better relationships, less need for pain medication, less stress and worry and bounce-back faster!
Next Steps
If you are interested in this program start with a free consultation call with me.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Life Coaching Basics. The consultation call is a great time to ask questions not answered here.
We meet over Zoom, once a week.
Choose the time that works best for you each week, and a Zoom link will automatically be emailed to you.
Click on your link at meeting time, and we’ll coach over video.
You may stop your package at any time and receive a refund for sessions not yet used.
There are two packages for Support Through Surgery. Both programs include the my Healing Home booklet and Journal Prompts.
6 weeks of coaching for $300
12 weeks of coaching for $600
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